Time together.

Not to be accused of reinventing the wheel, I checked out a couple of books on psychological aspects of retirement. The first one is "Happy Retirement  - the Psychology of Reinvention" by dr Kenneth S. Schultz (2015), NY: Penguin Random House. Quite comprehensive, it covers subjects such as relationship between work and retirement, planning for retirement, psychology of change and transition, living well and reinventing yourself.

Today I would like to summarize the authors thoughts on "Time Together" as it relates to my yesterday's post. Drawing from the research of Miriam Goodman who, reportedly, interviewed "several hundred subjects," the author makes the following recommendations:

  1. Take your time - you don't have to do everything you planned together right away
  2. Speak up - when partner wants something different than you. This goes along the lines of assertive communication I described in the previous post
  3. Stay connected - with other people than your partner. Friends, clubs, volunteering can give each of you a "breathing space."
  4. Share responsibilities - following this advice we alter cooking with my wife. 
  5. Stay active together - we take Ged for a walk in the evening together (on most days) and did some biking together (as in the picture). 
  6. Take time out - my going to the mountains seems to give us this opportunity to be alone.
  7. Make plans - author suggests it is beneficial to schedule some time to relax together, without pressure to do "too much." 
This all seems straightforward and self-explanatory. What do you think?

(PR)

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